When a First Date Goes Wrong

So you’ve got gone out on a first date and for some reason it didn’t work out.

The chemistry just wasn’t there, you didn’t make a connection and ended up extremely disappointed.

It’s a common scenario that happens to everyone.  So what can you do about it?

Here’s my easy suggestion:  Just carry on and keep trying!

The important thing is not to put all your eggs in one basket and focus your attention on just one person at the start.

I’m not suggesting you start two timing people,  just don’t just bank on one person….at least not until you’ve dated them a few times first.

Only the every lucky ones get the right pick at the first go it self. For the rest of us, we just have to keep trying till we succeed. Another advantage of trying out different people is that you can get to choose.  You shouldn’t just jump at the person  who you like the look of. Take you time, give yourself some breathing space and then make the right decision.

Nobody can force you into making a commitment. It should be completely your choice. Of course, if you get the right cues and something deep down inside tells you that this is the right person for you, then what are you waiting for, go ahead and show the green signal.

But on the other hand if someone is trying to force you into making a commitment and you feel hard pressed, gently try to break away. All you have to do is put your foot down very firmly and tell the person that you need more time.

However, it is not good to keep a person waiting indefinitely. Tell the person that you need perhaps a week’s time or more than that. But don’t let the person realize that you are checking out other people. Just tell them that this is probably the most important decision in your life so you just want to be sure.

Good luck,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.onlinedatingclinic.com

James Preece is the UK’s top dating coach and is the only dating expert who actually works “hands on” in the dating industry.

The Dating Book

As the UK’s top Dating Expert, I’ve been asked to write the ultimate dating book.

My book will cover all aspects of dating, love, sex and relationships.

However, I want this to be a number one bestselling dating book, so I need YOUR help!

Have you got a dating question, dilemma or problem that you want the answer?  Is there something about dating/men/women you’ve always wanted to know?

Let me know and I’ll do my best to answer it for you.

Also, if you have a really funny dating story I’d love to hear it too.  The best ones will be featured in my b ook and you’ll get a copy when it comes out.

If you’d like to contribute, please visit my website and drop me an email.  Or add a comment on this dating blog.

Many thanks,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.onlinedatingclinic.com

James Preece is the UK’s top dating coach and is the only dating expert who actually works “hands on” in the dating industry.

Online Dating : You only need 3 photos

Here’s  an important dating tip for you when it comes to online dating.

Quite often it’s better to limit the amount of photos you upload.

I’m sure you already know how important a good photo is for making a wonderful first impression.  However, it’s possible to mess things up if you add too many.

Online Dating sites are not supposed to be the place where you store all your favourite photos.   While a good photo or two are absolutely essential, you can ruin your chances by having too many.   It might sound odd but some people are looking for reasons NOT to contact you.   You are only as good as your worst photo. So if you have ten amazing photos and one not so hot one, they’ll judge you on the bad picture and move on.

You might have heard that it’s good to add group shots as it can make you look more popular. However, this can make you look like a player, oddball or even worse – what if they prefer someone else in the photo?

You only really need three photos:

1) A fantastic, smiling “up to date” headshot that looks like you on a good day.

2) A full body shot.  Yes, people are shallow and they want to see your body type.

3) An “active” shot where you are doing something really interesting.  This isn’t just to make you look more exciting, but to give the other person an icebreaker when it comes to getting in touch.

That’s all you need!

Good luck,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.onlinedatingclinic.com

James Preece is the UK’s top dating coach and is the only dating expert who actually works “hands on” in the dating industry.

Dating Tip: Your parting gift

Ok, you’ve had a fantastic date which ended with an amazing kiss.

You really want to see them and don’t want them to forget about you while you are apart.  So what can  you make sure that the other person does think about you?

The answer is simple. Just leave your mark behind.  I’m not suggesting a business  card as that’s not really appropriate and will be much to formal.  You do not want them  to remember you for your credentials or your job title.  So I would sugget something more personal.

Put your artistic and creative talents into full gear. If you are poetic, you could pen down a few lines on a small card and hand it to the person. Mind you, the lines should not be about the person as that might scare them off and be a bit over the top.  So keep to safer topics like friendship, relationships, togetherness, warmth, or meetings. But do the writing in advance and keep it for the right moment. Do not try to write a poem on a paper napkin with the person sitting in front of you!

If you can’t write poetry, maybe you could get some dried flowers and stick them onto a card and copy down the lines of somebody else, but admit that the lines are not your to the person.

Keep such a token with you and wait for the right moment. Just before you part, if you are sure that “this is the one” then hand it over to the person with a very shy expression on your face and a timid, “I made this for you…” Believe me, it’s miles better to say “I made this for you” than “I bought this for you”.

So what happens if you are not too sure that you want to see this person again? Well keep it with you itself and save it for the next person.

If the person is the right person, and if you did hand the person this personalised token, the person is sure to think of you in a much fonder way and they’ll have keepsake to look back on after you’ve been together a long time!

Good luck,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.onlinedatingclinic.com

James Preece is the UK’s top dating coach and is the only dating expert who actually works “hands on” in the dating industry.

How to Flirt

Flirting to acquire what you wish constitutes innate human behavior and is a crucial dating skill. By being playful and demonstrating interest then you make the other person feel wanted and therefore more accommodating. Flirting can make you feel great and get you lots more dates……if you do it correctly. James Preece, the UK’s top dating expert and dating coach offers his tips here for you:

1) The most crucial thing you can do is to hold eye contact. Long lingering looks coupled with a cheeky smile will show you are interested in them. If you do this properly they will find it hard to say no if you ask for something as they won’t want to lose your attention.

2) Mirroring is a fantastic way to build rapport and make them like you. This means that you copy what they do. If they scratch their nose, wait a couple of seconds then scratch yours. If they’re opposite you and raise their right hand, then raise yours. The reason this works is because people like people who are like themselves. If you’re doing what they are doing then they’ll put you on the same level as themselves. Just keep it very subtle or they will realise what you are up to.

3) Point at yourself from time to time when you use positive words. They’ll then subconsciously connect you with these words. For instance, tell them what a fantastic weekend you had and how you had a perfect day off.

4) Talk to them about their interests and make them feel special about them. Tell them how wonderful and fascinating you find these things and how it makes them stand out from everyone else. Pay attention to even the smallest of details and they’ll be amazed when you bring them up in conversation at a later time. If you don’t know much about these hobbies then do a little secret research on the internet and you’ll impress them even more.

5) When you ask for something, nod your head as if you’re saying “yes.” This will subconsciously increase your chances of getting a positive reaction.

6) Recent studies show that the very action of holding a warm drink can make people assume you’re a warmer person. A cold drink can have the opposite effect.

You can use these tips when dating or just in normal life! Dating and flirting are all about having fun.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.onlinedatingclinic.com

The UK’s number one dating coach and dating expert

Charm: The Secret of Dating Success

We all know that you need to make a great impression if you want dating success.  As a dating coach, I always teach that.

There is something that is equally or even more important than that, and that is to make the other person feel comfortable.   You MUST help the other person relax.

Perhaps  you have been chatting for a while so you do know lots about each other.  So now you are meeting up, you need to ease the tension and break the ice. Sometimes the ice gets so thick that you can literally feel it. Break it up by cracking a joke or two.

But the joke should be spontaneous and in keeping with the situation or else it will fall flat. Do not rehearse a joke because a rehearsed joke sounds…well…rehearsed.

The key word here is charm. Use all the charm that you can muster. Try to be as considerate and as thoughtful as possible. Do not dominate the conversation but try to get the other person talking. People generally love to talk about themselves so try to get the other person talking by asking about the person’s work. Show interest in whatever the other person says.

Do your best to be a great conversationalist.  A good conversationalist is not a person who talks well, but is one who listens well as well. So try to be a good listener. And while you are listening try not to get distracted by something else or the other person might feel that you are losing interest in what they are saying.

However, what can be done if you find the other person is trying to dominate or control the conversation?

If that happens, you need to listen patiently for a minute or two and then give a subtle sign like a raised eyebrow or a smile through the corner of your mouth. If the other person is smart enough, he or she will get the hint. If not then take control anyway.  After all, you might have to listen to this person for the rest of your life!

Humour rarely fails. But again take care not to go over the top. There is only one thing worse than a total lack of humour and that is too much humour!

So work on your sense of humour and your charm will come naturally.

Good luck,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.onlinedatingclinic.com

James Preece is the UK’s top dating coach and is the only dating expert who actually works “hands on” in the dating industry.

Celebrity Dating – The Second Time Around

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to date a celebrity?

They always seem to have such exciting dating lives and we love to read all about them.  But what happens when a longer term relationship ends for a celebrity?

A new dating blog by Actress and TV personality Donna Air will spill the secrets of her own dating experiences.

Known for her role in CBBC series Byker Grove and presenting The Big Breakfast and MTV, Donna is now turning her hand to writing as she unveils Dating Unplugged for E-harmony- a series of blogs about her four and a half year experience on the London dating scene.

Dating Unplugged will provide honest and amusing first-person anecdotes, as well as offer advice on everything from dating the younger and older man to what to wear. It will also keep readers updated on Donna’s search for her very own Mr Right as she tries to juggle single parenthood with a dating life.

Donna’s blog http://www.eharmony.co.uk/relationship-advice/online-dating-unplugged will follow the theme of ‘Dating the second time around’, the subject of a recent book by Dr Gian Gonzaga, Senior Relationship Scientist at eHarmony.co.uk

Donna Air said:

“The search for the perfect partner is the one thing that unites all of us, whatever our circumstances, and starting that journey again after a long relationship can be scary. I was really excited to be asked by eHarmony to share some of my stories, and hopefully help other single people in the process. It can feel like a ‘dating jungle’ out there at times but sharing our experiences with each other will help us all on that mission to find the perfect person!”

The Dating Unplugged blog is part of eHarmony Advice, which contains relationship advice articles, forums and opinion polls for eHarmony members and anyone seeking relationship advice.  As the UK’s Dating Guru, watch out for my own Guest Blog which will soon appear on the site

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.onlinedatingclinic.com

What Do Women Find Attractive In Men?

Many of my single male clients ask me what women are really looking for.

So today I’ll be telling you what exactly they find attractive.

Women when asked will say they want a nice guy who treats them like a princess and
pretty much has no balls of his own. They like the idea of getting flowers and having a
sensitive guy to talk to about their problems.

All women will tell you they want to date the nice guy or that they can never seem to find
a nice guy to date.

The problem is, this isn’t exactly correct. These women arn’t lying when they say they
want these things…. on the surface they do, because it makes sense, it makes sense to
want a guy like this, but on a subconscious level, they really want a man who takes control and acts like a man should

So what qualities do women want in men?

The same thing they’ve always wanted and always will want. Women want their men to be men and not
wimpy boys who ask for approval on everything.

I know this sounds harsh, but it’s true.

Have you ever noticed the following?

When you give a girl a compliment or tell a girl how beautiful she is she shys away from you?

HOWEVER

When you notice a flaw about her she will get more involved in the conversation and take you more seriously.

Have you ever noticed….

When you buy girls gifts and take them to expensive dinners they end up later that night thanking you for a great evening and going out with another guy?

BUT

If you just go for a quick drink and act like you are equals she feels attracted to you because you’re not catering to her every whim.

Have you noticed when….

You call a girl often after a date and she seems distant and funny

BUT

When you don’t call her and you act like you’re busy and could live with her or without her, she won’t stop calling you.

WOMEN DON’T WANT TO BE CATERED TO, HOUNDED, TREATED LIKE PRINCESSES OR ANY OTHER RUBBISH YOUR MOTHER TOLD YOU ABOUT DATING.

This is from my experience what women want from a man…..

They Want You To Be Confident

They Want You To Lead

They Don’t Want You To Get Emotional

They Want You To Be Fun With No Hang Ups

They Want You To Make Them Laugh

They Want You To Make Them Wonder

They Want You To Be Interesting

They Want You To Know What You Want From Life

Want to learn how to do those things?…. read on!

Why not sign up now for my weekly dating tips newsletter? It’s completely free and you might just learn something!

Good luck,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.onlinedatingclinic.com

James Preece is the UK’s top dating coach and is the only dating expert who actually works “hands on” in the dating industry.

The Number One Dating Rule

This blog  is some of the most powerful information you will ever read, not just about dating but about life in general.

When your life is going to plan, you feel confident and when you feel confident, you exude a persona that naturally attracts people and makes them want to be around you.
No one likes dating a miserable git!

These rules are what I live my life by and I want to share them with you now.

Dating Rules

Rule 1: Always be confident in yourself -

People who have real confidence in themselves attract people naturally. People can tell when you are confident with yourself and here you are going with your life.

If you’re not confident in yourself, why? Is it because you have no money? Is it because you think you’re overweight or ugly?

All of this can be overcome with confidence.  Of course, if you are really over weight and you have bad
teeth and you dress like a tramp, change yourself.

It’s that simple. If you want to be sucessful
with women, you can’t hide behind excuses to
fail.

I know a lot of people who aren’t rick or  good looking who are very successful with dating because they act like they are good
looking and they are rich, they act in ways that make men and women naturally attracted to them.

A happy go lucky guy who smiles a lot will get x10 the amount of attention as a sad sack sitting in the corner no matter how hot or rich he is.

Be happy with yourself, but if there is something holding you back from being a more outgoing person, fix it.

I had a large mole on my face and while no women seemed to care about it, it made me feel selfconscious and I didn’t feel confident in my looks, so I got it removed.

The only real different I see now is not in my looks but in my personality. I feel better about MYSELF and I did it for MYSELF, I didn’t do it for women’s approval, I did it because I wanted to be more outgoing and feel better about myself.

Why not sign up now for my weekly dating tips newsletter? It’s completely free and you might just learn something!

Good luck,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.onlinedatingclinic.com

James Preece is the UK’s top dating coach and is the only dating expert who actually works “hands on” in the dating industry.

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If you want to get a job you get an expert to look at your CV.

If you want to play the piano you hire a piano teacher.

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www.onlinedatingclinic.com